平时多流汗，战时少流血 píng shí duō liú hàn, zhàn shí shǎo liú xuè
Previous chapters already brought up the problem of the demonisation of physical relationships. Some readers may have noticed the author’s attempt to argue against such unfavourable opinions and instead to promote a progressive or open-minded attitude towards human sexuality. The tone of the upcoming paragraphs will be no different. This time, however, virginity and pre-marital intercourse will reside at the heart of the debate. On that note, the choice of the proverb could appear confusing, or for the very least surprising. At first view, there is apparently no connection between the wording and topics such as coitus, eroticism or luxuria. Taking one step back and thinking about the act itself, however, one will notice that blood and sweat are not that foreign to sex after all, especially when it concerns of the first experience of a young lady. Considering the discomfort she suffers during the process and the haemorrhage caused by the rupture of the hymen – not to mention the emotional trouble she goes through when it turns out that her first “boyfriend” is a jerk and that their love will not last forever – it seems that good preparation can, as the adage suggests, have a number of benefits. At any rate, preliminary or explorative practice helps her cope with some of the difficulties she will, sooner or later, face in her future relationships with men. Like for most aspects of life, experience raises young adults’ chances of success in real situations.
Despite the controversial nature of the issue, the arguments raised here shall remain unbalanced and unequivocally in favour of fornication. The point is, ladies and gentlemen, that lust, for lack of a better word, is good. Lust is right, lust works. Lust clarifies, cuts through, and captures the essence of the evolutionary spirit. Lust, in all of its forms: Lust for life, for nookie, for love, carnal knowledge, has marked the upward surge of mankind. But lust, you mark my words, will not save couples, nor that malfunctioning institution called marriage.
Man is by nature a sexual animal. As Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha wrote in their 2010 book Sex at Dawn, “there’s no denying that we’re a species with a sweet tooth for sex”. More than two hundred years before that, one of the characters in Pierre de Beaumarchais’ play The Marriage of Figaro (1778) already had observed that “drinking when not thirsty and making love all the time, […] is all that distinguishes us from other animals.” How right he was. In fact, no other creature on earth dedicates more of its disposable time on sex-related activities (e.g., thinking about, planning, having, or remembering them) than humans. We even out-bang the notoriously lascivious bonobo. Both species are the only ones for whom eros does not only represent a facilitator for procreation but is also employed as a means of cementing friendship or for recreational purposes. For them, non-reproductive coupling is the most natural or usual form of copulation. Other animals, on the contrary, pair quietly, less frequently, and strictly with the intention to produce offspring. In that sense, the practice of spontaneous, loud, or frivolous sex, which we often qualify as “animalistic”, is actually much more “human” (perhaps even more “humane”) than we think, whereas prudish, inhibited or boring people who rarely roll in the hay are the ones who in reality act like animals.
Nothing in history, no writing, no religion, no philosophical doctrine, no technology, no social convention, etc. has had enough influence to dethrone us as the kings of ass. Nevertheless, it is only recently that people have earned the right to say, “I am horny, and it’s fine this way”. In the course of the last 60 years, many restrictions concerning sexuality were brought down. People saw themselves endowed with new unalienable rights, among them free love, promiscuity and the pursuit of horniness. Until a few decades ago, in some cultures still today, a woman’s social life was by and large confined to that of the family. Escaping from matrimony was practically not feasible and associated with several risks, such as marginalisation, destitution, malnourishment, or even death. Nowadays, things are different, especially in Westerns countries. Bachelorettes can now decide not to get married, and wives to split up with their husbands. They are free to live out their desires, without worrying too much about the consequences of their lewdness. At the same time, caution should be exercised if a man insists on the virginity of his bride or wishes to delay the “first time” until the nuptials. It may indicate that he values the purity of her body more than her personality or feelings and that he considers her as a mere object that should not be spoiled – a view or requirement that is completely out-of-place at the beginning of the 21st century.
 See chapters 2 “A good woman doesn’t go with a second man” and 4 “Beauty is the troubled water that brings disasters”.
 From this perspective, the formulation “a drop of blood spent in a drill is a drop of sweat saved in a battle” sounds more accurate, but this is another question we shall not discuss any further here.
 Ryan / Jetha (2010), p. 2
 Original: “Boire sans soif et faire l’amour en tout temps, madame, il n’y a que ça qui nous distingue des autres bêtes.” (Act II, Scene 2)
 Ryan / Jetha (2010), pp. 85-87
 Or in German: “Ich bin geil, und das ist auch gut so.”